One of the things I love so much about Animals is their authenticity. More to the point, their directness. With each other and us. Yes is an emphatic “YES” and no is an equally empathic “NO” once it’s reached. Before the actual “NO” there are a myriad of incrementally raised objections by Animals. Each seemingly subtle to all but the most aware observer. We see these expressions carried out in their behavior and as an animal communicator I can attest to the mirrored states of feeling “yes” or “no” in each individual animal and situation.
Humans, though, at times, tend to hedge. Especially on the “NOs”. Those who are empaths, we tend to want to protect the other person from their own emotional response to what is said or done in the case of a “NO”. As if we’re in charge of what they feel. That’s our grand illusion, so deep is our desire to have the world be a loving place for all beings. Sometimes we perceive it’s just easier to go with the flow by not being authentic about how we really feel or think in the moment. So that a “yes” becomes a “welllll, okayyyy” rather than an outright “no”. This is not to say that sometimes you won’t be completely sure of a thing or person or situation and will need to slide into the place of “yes” or “no” after a few moments. The bottom line is that it should be a resonance with a full “yes” or “no” once you get into the energy of a thing or person or situation. No half-ways, please. Because that automatically takes away from you and actually, anyone else involved. You owe it to yourself and to them to be a full participant (or not) of whatever is going on. Everyone benefits from that positive energy.
So in the case of sliding into a “no” after consideration what do you do? Are you capable of saying that two-letter word that sometimes strikes terror in our hearts within a relationship, no matter how old it it? How much authenticity are you wanting to bring to this field of heart energy? Is it possible to also say “no” so that your comfort zone remains intact? And what about the push-back that sometimes happens, the peer pressure, to change the “no” into a “yes”?
These aren’t meant to be easy questions. As time goes on, I find it easier to be direct rather than waffling. Especially if I’m pressuring myself or being pressured. That middle iffy-ground of “maybe” sometimes brings up angst for me. And sometimes it doesn’t. That in itself is a clue that I’m feeling uncomfortable both with myself and the situation at hand. Or I’m not. I’m either willing to ponder further how I feel or I’m not. Above all the emotion coming from the body needs to be examined long before the words that accompany the body are spoken.
The connection Animals have with their bodies is, of course, quite direct. There are always continual pathways online between emotion and thought/action. Sometimes the speed particularly of their “yes” catches us off-guard, perhaps, so that we are amazed at how fluid their response seems to be. Make no mistake that “no” is just as fluid and their desire to be compassionate with each other and us is what makes it seem like they’re hesitating. They’re not. We can take a page from their book, I think, in knowing our own selves really well and trusting that our bodies will give us the direction to go in any situation if we get out of our own way first. Out of needing to please someone else or feeling guilt. Surely authenticity with self comes first.